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Ashleigh's story shared by Domestic Violence Crime Watch

10/17/2012

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Ashleigh's story shared by Domestic Violence Crime Watch Remembering...Ashleigh Marie Lindsey, 20

Ashleigh Lindsey, and her unborn daughter, Patience, died Friday July 13th, 2012 in Kingston, Oklahoma. Ashleigh, who was four months pregnant, was fatally shot by her 29 year-old former boyfriend,... Joshua Mahaffey. Ashleigh had dated Mahaffey just six months but ended the relationship after he began abusing her and became violent. As she broke free, and authorities sought to arrest Mahaffey for domestic assault and battery, he managed to evade them, yet continued to threaten and stalk Ashleigh and even enlisted the help of a friend, Joshua Scott, to help him do it. Ashleigh sought help from the police, from a domestic violence program, was granted a protective order, and also changed her phone numbers and tried to move around to try to avoid him.

On the day of Ashleigh's death, Mahaffey's friend, Joshua Scott, fatally shot his mother's 43 year-old boyfriend, Chad Page, stole his car, then drove to pick Mahaffey up and, together, they headed to Ashleigh's home. Around 2 pm, as Ashleigh was preparing to work one final shift before entering a domestic violence shelter, both men broke into her home, one coming in the front door, the other through the back door. Mahaffey shot her twice with the same gun his friend used earlier to kill Page. He then killed himself. Tragically, Ashleigh, and her baby, died that night at a hospital. Ashleigh loved music, singing, dancing, acting and fishing.

Joshua Scott has been arrested and faces multiple charges related to all three deaths. He may face the death penalty.



Special Thanks To Christine Armstrong of Domestic Violence Crime Watch
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To Patience Lynn (3 Months since passing away)

10/13/2012

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PictureI picture Patience looking like this.
To my darling Patience who will never be born:

It may seem odd to begin a letter with a farewell to someone who never was born, someone who will never will be. But I needed to find a way to say goodbye to you, Patience, because even though we never had the chance to say hello, you’ve always been a part of me. You’ve been with me – the idea of you – my whole life. As far back as I can remember, I ...

expected you. I spent my life preparing for the act of being a grandmother to you. I carried the potential of you,  close to my heart, and in quiet moments I have loved to savor the imagining of you. But now, through the whims of stupidity and hate it seems you are simply not to be.

I am sad to have lost the opportunity to know you. I feel an empty hollow in the place I’ve always reserved for you. After a lifetime of expecting you, I’m struggling to let go of the idea of you, and with that, the idea of us as grandmother and granddaughter. Having felt you so keenly in my life, have expected you so fully, the reality of life without you still perplexes me slightly. “What do you mean I’ll never have a granddaughter?” It’s like trying to imagine a world without the color purple. Purple has always been there; purple belongs in the color scheme of life.

I like to imagine that you would have been like your mother, but better. The best of her distilled, and improved upon by that which would have been uniquely you. You would have been precocious, and willful, and you would have kept your doting cousins wrapped around your little finger. You would have grown into a strong and capable woman, and you would have become, with the passage of the years, my friend as well as my granddaughter. We would have shared things that only us would have known about and you couldn't have shared with your mom. I would have treasured our unique relationship as much as I treasure the relationship I had with your mother. Especially the relationship I had with my own grandmother– a relationship I could only hope to replicate, as it would be impossible to improve upon it.

It may seem to be a little strange to say goodbye to someone who never was born, who never will get the chance to be born. But to me, you were as real as the sunrise, as real as the stars that shine at night. I can’t touch those things either, but that hasn’t stopped me from believing in them. But now, after a lifetime of anticipating you, I relinquish you to the stars and banish the idea of you to the speculation of long, dark nights. What might have been, what will not be. In the darkest of those nights, I think of two lost souls, you and your mother, and I wonder. I wonder if you will know me when we finally meet. I wonder if you will love me as instantly as I have you.

But now, finally, it’s time to say goodbye to you Patience, as I embrace with my whole heart the idea of spending my life missing what might have been. I’ll have to adjust my sense of self, too, my sense of how my life will unfold from here. But my heart is full, and I have more blessings in my life than I ever dared hope for because in the end I do have a granddaughter. And today on the three month Anniversary of you Patience Lynn and your beautiful mothers death I want you to know how much I love and think of you both.

Goodbye, my beautiful Patience Lynn till the day we can finally meet. Ashleigh Marie hold on to Patience tight and give her a kiss for me.


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The Day That Should Have Been Her Wedding Day

10/5/2012

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I want to thank everyone for their love, sympathy and prayers during the last few months after losing my daughter. We still have many trails and court dates to face so I ask you to please kept us in your thoughts. At the same time I want everyone here to know that I still receive messages of Ashleigh's story changing and saving lives. That is my prayer and I know it is what Ashleigh wants as well.... I encourage you all to not be afraid to use my daughters story to save those you love. That is partly why this page was created. Feel free to share it with anyone who is in a situation of Family Violence. Share it with your daughters as an example of what love is not so they have a reference to make good choices in relationships. Lastly for those who have been abused in Domestic Violence let your story be heard. Make a difference and don't be ashamed. Now I have to be my daughters voice and if I can speak out during the worst pain I can imagine with losing a child let alone a grandchild how much more do you have inside of you? Raise Awareness! I love you Ashleigh and Patience!

I never shared this picture because the dress is suppose to be not seen till the wedding day. Tomorrow was the day she should have worn this. She was so excited to be getting married.



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    Tara Woodlee

    This is a chronicle of the grieving process at the murder of my daughter, Ashleigh Marie Lindsey and her unborn Baby Patience Lynn. They call the parentless child an orphan & the married person who loses their mate a widow/widower but what do they call a parent who loses a child? There is no word given for the parent who have seen this kind of untimely death.

    The murder of a child is even worse and puts you in a very exclusive club (for lack of a better term) and even more exclusive is to have your grandchild murdered as well. It is a STOLEN GENERATION at the hands of the man/father who was suppose to love and protect them.


    I have decided to share this journey so that other parents can see that what they feel is in no way wrong. THERE IS NO WRONG WAY TO GRIEVE! This is my personal journey.

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